LIFE LESSONS
1. How to be happy
The pleasant by-product of this method is a rise in self-esteem. And once you start to feel like you're worth something you'll find hapiness- because it's in you.
2. How to make friends
Have your attitude aligned to friend-making. Smile, ask questions, don't fold your arms. It's not what you say that matters but the fact that you started a conversation in the first place. In the end, everyone just wants to be heard.
3. How to survive a set back
Remind yourself of your own strengths. Use your strengths. When you're feeling strong enough, make a frank assessment of the situation. What was my part in this? Is there anything I could have done differently? If it ever happens again, you will know what to avoid.
4. How to appear smarter
Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than speak out and remove all doubt. But ideally you should hover somewhere in between. This means asking questions like "and then what happened?"
5. How to say no
Focus on your needs when you say no. Explain your reasons for not doing that. The sooner you start saying no, the easier it will be for everyone.
6. How to handle yourself in an argument
"Agree to disagree!" First, breathe. Count to 10. Don't talk while you are emotional. Think about it and talk after all cool down.
7. How to speak in public
Rehearse. The more prepared you are, the less chance you have of being rattled. Bring your notes. People only ever retain 20% of what you tell them.
8. How to budget like you mean it
Do the budget based on your pay cycle. Work out the absolute expenses (fixed expenses). Then work out your variable expenses. Expenses should not exceed your income.
9. How to not let money rule your life
The solution is not to penny-pinch but to refocus your goals. Start to giving away (to charity), not only will make you aware of how rich you are compared to somebody in Africa. You will also begin to feel better about yourself. When your self-esteem rises, you won't need so many material things to make you feel good. Read books to enrich your mind rather than spending money on buying things.
10. How to reduce your carbon footprint at home
Watch how you shop, turn off your appliances, use energy-efficient light bulbs,turn on your air-con above 24 deg.
MODERN MANNERS
1. How to turn down a big invitation
Call or send a note or email saying you can not come. Don't have to give an excuse. To compensate, tell them you would love to take them out to dinner at a time convenient for them to celebrate. Having dinner at your house does not count.
2. How to react to a gift you don't like
You must pretend that you like the present. Not pretending may lead to well-intentioned feelings getting hurt. Telling them that you are overwhelmed to unwrap anything now, but will open all presents later. A simple "Aww! thank you!" and it's done.
3. How to properly introduce yourself or someone else
Say Hi, follow with you name. Say "Nice to meet you" only after the other person has spoken as it can not be nice to meet them until you have properly met. Contextual yourself, like you are sister of A, or Manager of B dept. If you are introducting one person to another, and you've contextualised them, the next step is to draw out a common interest. If you are introducing one person to a group, then introduce the rest of the group to the person also. If you have forgotten someone's name it's far better to come clean than to not introduce them at all. If you are sitting, it's always best to stand when being introduced.
4. How to be a good neighbour
Don't be nosy. Don't park in anyone's driveway except your own and tell guests when the demarcation lies. Dispose your garbage thoughtfully and securely. Don't play loud music, dry your hair or turn on washing machine after 10pm. Chatting or at least saying hello to the elders of the neighbourhood.
5. how to deal with passive aggression
Treat the passive aggressive people with a small amount of compassion, because underneath it all they really feel like a trapped child. Encourage open communication by expressing what you will and won't put up with. Don't bring up old grievances. Keep it light-hearted. Dissolved tension by humour.
6. How to apologies properly
Don't use "I'm sorry you were offended" as you are not accepting responsibility and by shifting onto them, you are inflicting further harm. Screaming "I'm sorry!" in the middle of the argument can be interpreted as sarcastic. Wait until you both have calmed down, then apologize. By "Sorry", things don't go back to normal. "People don't forget." Begin by explaining what you know you did wrong without offering any excuses. Then tell the person how sorry you are. Then talk to them about possible ways you can avoid repeating your behaviour in the future.
7. How to politely refuse advice
Just say "uh-huhs" and change the subject. Shutting them down doesn't help you long term. Just nod your head slowly to convey your awe at their specialised knowledge and reply "Yes! I know!".
8. How to behave at the funeral
Be on time. Wear conservative clothes that are black. Don't sit down the front, make yourself as unobstrusive as possible. Offer condolences (I'm so sorry) then quickly move on.
TRICKY SITUATIONS
1. How to escape a party bore
2. How to leave a party early
The best is use kids as a reason to leave if you have one. Pick a time when 2 or 3 people are leaving and piggyback onto their farewells, thereby minimising any chance of a drawn out goodbye.
3. How to react to an insult
You don't want to sink to their level, but also because any comeback will distract them from how rude they are being. If you are just as rude, it justifies their original comment. So, take a deep breath and say something like "wow" or "what was that?" because these force the insulter to hear how rude they sound.
4. How to respond to a nosy question
Just reply "I'm not comfortable discussing that" Let the simplicity of your response be a lesson.
5. How to respond to too much information
"TMI" or just say "thanks" or "woah!" Flee by saying you off for shower or something.
6. How to say in an awkward chance meeting
7. How to say when you don't know what to say
"I don't know what to say" Just don't change your tone of voice or tilt your head when you see them because the person might be wounded and broken.
8. How to make small talk
9. How to be silent
Don't whistle, don't hum, don't even sigh - all of these signify nervousness will only exacerbate any perceived tension. Simply smile and enjoy the quite. It could be well be that the other person needs-silence. And remember, it won't last forever (even though it feels like it will).
10. How to handle a bad housemate
11. How to respond to panhandlers
Giving money may be more about us and our need to offload our guilt than any need that the homeless person has.
FAMILY
1. How to cope with challenging in-laws
Maintain diplomacy."Talking it through" is not recommended. Keep your head down, smile a lot and keep any opinions to a minimum. If they are downright abusive, don't react. Reacting only inflames situation. It will also hurt your spouse. Turn a deaf ear. Your spouse should be the first person you speak to about any tension with in-law. Never go directly to the in-law.
2. How to deal with other people's misbehaving kids
You can not re-parent anyone, so don't try. You can speak directly to the monther and father of the child. They may get defensive and even be rude themselves. So it's imperative to keep your tone light and non-accusatory.
3. How to handle a tantrum
Tantrums occur between ages of 2 to 4 years old, when toddler can not yet properly articulate feelings like frustration and anger and can not yet differentiate between needs and wants. Make minimal eye contact, speaking in a low and calm voice and doing the best to get you and your kid out of public view asap. It's important not to fight fire with fire by yelling or threatening. If an adult verbally attacks you, leave-immediately. Don't fight back.
4. How to cope with a difficult sibling
5. How to succeed as a stepparent
6. How to be a good godparent
Birthday cards are mandatory, birthday presents preferred. The kid is not going to make the first move on account of the fact that they are a kid, so it's up to you to stay in touch and be consistent. You can't give good gift if you don't first get to know what they like, so put the time in.
7. How to choose last-minute gift for your dad or mum
8. How to enjoy yourself at Christmas
LOVE AND RELATIONSHIPS
1. How to flirt
2. How to ask out your crush
3. How to escape a bad date
4. How to handle a break-up
5. How to relate to your ex's friend
6. How to handle a negative friend
7. How to repair a friendship gone sour
8. How to be the best bridesmaid ever
FOOD AND WINE
1. How to get into a no-reservations restaurant
2. How to test wine
3. How to properly match wine to food
4. How to host the perfect dinner party
5. how to have a perfect table manners
6. How to send back a dish
7. What to do if you don't like what you have been served
TRAVEL
1. How to pack a suitcase
2. How to observe in-flight etiquette
3. How to be a good houseguest
4. How to take care of a borrowed car
5. How to merge in traffic
6. How to handle road rage
SOCIAL MEDIA AND TECHNOLOGY
1. How to observe mobile phone etiquette
2. How to respond to online gossip
3. How to untag yourself from a Facebook photo
4. How to extricate yourself from Facebook
5. How to get more followers on Twitter
6. How to observe online dating etiquette
WORK
1. How to work smart not hard
2. How to blitz an interview
3. How to ask for a pay rise
4. How to get more from a business meeting
5. How to recover from an email faux pas
6. How to deal with a loud co-worker
7. How to give negative feedback
8. How to disagree with your boss
9. How to respond to radio silence
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